FAQ's

These are a couple of questions that some people have:

Aren't you afraid the birthparents will take your baby away?"

Legally, once the birthparents surrender their parental rights and an order is entered terminating those rights, they cannot 'come back' and reclaim their child. It is just as important to realize that birthparents make an adoption plan and face the loss connected with it because they want what is best for their child. They don't want to disrupt the child's life once they are placed with a family. The desire to do what is best for their child doesn't end. And, contrary to some people's fears, open adoption does not increase the chance that a birthparent would want to reclaim their child. In an open adoption, birthparents have the ability to see for themselves how their child is growing and thriving and know that they made a good plan that is in the best interest of their child."

Open adoption? When the child gets older, it will just cause confusion. Won't you feel like you're not the real parents, or you are co-parenting?"

Every parent must believe that they are entitled to be a parent to their child, regardless of whether it is a biological or adopted child. And, every adoptive parent must accept the reality that there is another set of biological parents for their child. That reality does not change our relationship with our adopted child. We are the parents who are there every day, whom the child knows as mom and dad. As far as a child being confused, children are probably more confused by not knowing parts of their history. Children are remarkably able to understand, for example, the complex relationships of blended families. A child growing up with a custodial step-parent knows that they have another biological parent and they aren't confused about who is who. Why do we think that children would be confused about a biological and adoptive parent? Children understand who is parenting them, who loves them and who is there with them every day. They also can understand that they have another biological parent who loves them and is not in competition with their parents."